I'll get to the 4 steps in a sec but first...
'Touch him again and I'll kill ya!!'
That's what I heard right outside my office half an hour ago,
Now usually I wouldn't get involved in situations like this (reasons I may go into another day),
BUT this time I had to go and see what all the commotion was (office is where both mine and my mums business is),
What do I see when I open the solid wooden office door?
One with his hands around the other guys throat pinning him up the wall,
My instincts kick in and somehow I manage to separate them away from each other,
I know one of the guys from the gym I train at so once I'd separated them I went to see if he was ok,
He offered me the reasons behind him grabbing the other guy (obviously I can't and won't share what they were),
Then I went to see the other guy and ask him if he was ok too,
Bit of a miscommunication
And it all could have been avoided had the truth just had been spoken a few days earlier.
Now the reason I share this message with you is because in my work I see a lot of miscommunication,
BUT not between 2 different people,
The miscommunication I witness is between just one person,
And that one person is the person in front of me,
They often SAY everything's ok OR 'not that bad',
When really, we I did a bit deeper,
They're either, unhappy, stressed, frustrated, depressed, angry, upset,
Or a combination of the above.
And the moment people get honest with themselves is the moment something magical happens,
That magical thing?
Because they've stopped lying/fighting with what is,
And instead they've finally told the truth and accepted it.
And from there we can actually move forwards because we have a starting point,
Keep arguing and fighting with what is and all we end up doing is going round in circles of frustration and anger,
For years I lied myself saying things like:
'Everything's fine and it all happens for a reason'
Or I was fighting what was by saying:
I shouldn't have been facing bankruptcy,
Or that I shouldn't be a failing dad,
Or that I was unhealthy and couldn't run more than 100 yards without coughing up my kidneys,
But none of those 'I SHOULDN'TS' and 'I'm ok' actually helped me move forwards,
What helped me (and totally changed my life) was finally admitting and telling myself the truth about where I was in every area of my life.
From that point I was able to stop fighting with what was and instead I had the space, time and energy to look at what I actually wanted my life to look like and from there I could reverse engineer it and get to work.
And now that's all I do.
I get the facts about where I am,
Decide where I want to be,
Create a plan,
I do this with my health,
I do this with my finances,
And I even do this with my relationships,
And if you're sat there either lying to yourself by saying everything's ok when really it isn't OR you're fighting with what is by telling yourself things SHOULD be different when really it isn't then I suggest you consider taking the time today to us my
'4 simple steps to living a life you love' formula:
1. Tell the brutal and honest truth about where you are right now in every area of your life
2. Decide in detail where you want to be in each of those areas
3. Devise a plan and path to help you move from where you are now to where you want to be (I share HOW to do that with your body here).
4. DO THE WORK
5. (optional) reach out to me if you would like help with any of the above steps as it's what I've done not just for my life but for hundreds of my clients lives too.
To your health, Wealth and happiness,
Ps If you do want help, connect with my on Facebook here and message me with: 'I'm ready to quit fighting' and let's see what magic we can create.